“Far better in a house that mourns, than one where there’s a feast; so everyone should take to heart that all end up deceased.” (Ecclesiastes 7:2)
This is the seventh post on Ecclesiastes, which I am translating into common meter. The following contains my rendering of Ecclesiastes 7, preceded by a brief reflection.
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The spiritual journey of all Christians follows the path of love. From the time of conversion until God calls us home, there is simply no other way. For many, the desire to embody the virtues of love – forgiveness, humility, compassion, gratitude, and the like – increases with age, particularly when approaching the biblical marker of three score and ten years. When we open our minds to the truth of our own mortality, spiritual growth emerges from the shadows to become a central focus in our life. There is an increasing sense of urgency as we feel the days slipping away and time growing shorter. We begin to see things in a new light – a divine light – that shines deeply into our soul, revealing all manner of thoughts and actions in need of divine purgation and reformation.
How God works to enable our transformation is forever shrouded in mystery. There are, of course, well-worn practices that can place us in a position to be re-formed by his Spirit. These practices, spiritual disciplines, include such things as periods of silence and solitude, fasting, prayer, community, study, worship, and others. One discipline often associated with the later years is contemplating one’s own death. Known by its Latin name, momento mori, it is the practice of ‘remembering that you are going to die.’ This is not a morbid exercise per se, but a way to awaken in our spirit a desire to live a different kind of life today. This is the focus of Ecclesiastes 7:1-4.
Here is the NET version:
1 A good reputation is better than precious perfume; likewise, the day of one’s death is better than the day of one’s birth.
2 It is better to go to a funeral than a feast. For death is the destiny of every person, and the living should take this to heart.
3 Sorrow is better than laughter, because sober reflection is good for the heart.
4 The heart of the wise is in the house of mourning, but the heart of fools is in the house of merrymaking.
In the first part of verse 1, the Teacher declares that, “A good reputation is better than precious perfume.” A “good reputation” emerges more or less naturally from a life of virtue. Who among us doesn’t value a good reputation that comes from living a virtuous life? Many try to craft a good name for themself absent a life of integrity – but ultimately fail. Despite the machinations of the ego, there are no shortcuts to a good name. For many years Zenith Electronics had the slogan, “The quality goes in before the name goes on.” Really not a bad way to think about a life of virtue. And to what can a good reputation be compared? The Teacher uses the image of “precious perfume,” which was a much sought after commodity in Old Testament times even rivaling silver and gold. As well, in Jesus’ day, perfumes were highly valued. Jesus, who lived the most virtuous life ever, was anointed with perfume. (Matthew 26:6-10)
In the second part of verse 1, the Teacher adds, “likewise, the day of one’s death is better than the day of one’s birth.” Clearly, he is not saying that the day of one’s birth is not valuable or important. Recall, the parallelism – reputation is to perfume, as death is to birth. Perfume is highly valued, and so too is the day of one’s birth. But according to the Teacher, for each of these (perfume and day of birth) there is something of greater value – namely, reputation and the day of one’s death. But how can the day of one’s death be better than the day of one’s birth?
Verse 1 is a puzzling proverb to which many interpretations have been offered. I would suggest that it is best understood in context with the following verses 2-4. Here we find the Teacher asserting that for those who are wise – a funeral is better than a feast (verse 2); sorrow is better than laughter (verse 3); and mourning is better than merrymaking (verse 4). In each of these verses the emphasis is not just the experience, but on taking these ideas to heart. In other words, the Teacher affirms the unique spiritual value of reflecting on the end of life because it is a time when the reality of the meaning of life comes into focus. Ronald Rolheiser writes, “If, indeed, we knew that we were to die tomorrow, we should, on this our last day, quickly come to the realization of how precious are the gifts of life, friendship, love, health, and work.” (The Restless Heart)
It sounds a bit gloomy, but momento mori is rooted in Scripture, starting with God’s prophetic words to Adam, “For dust you are and to dust you will return.” (Genesis 3:19). It is also found in the prayer of the Psalmist, “Teach us to number our days, that we may gain a heart of wisdom.” (Psalm 90:12) And in the words of the Apostle James, “You do not even know what will happen tomorrow. What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes.” (James 4:14) And of course, this is precisely the advice of the Teacher in the second verse, “For death is the destiny of every person, and the living should take this to heart.” (Ecclesiastes 7:2)
An advocate of this discipline, Kathleen Dowling Singh writes, “Meditating on death opens us up deeply to the precious gift of this life and the boundless gift we can make of it. It begs us to look at what remains frivolous in our lives, what remains careless. Most of us have lived so many decades on the surface of being, whistling around the outskirts of awareness. We rarely pause to question, to look. Where have I not forgiven? Where have I not apologized? Who have I not loved well? Who have I not thanked? Where do I still cling? What fears do I still harbor? Such deeply and thoroughly honest contemplation allows us to change what can be changed and die without regret.” (The Grace in Aging)
I believe that momento mori is an exemplar of the Apostle Paul’s call to “be transformed by the renewal of your mind.”(Romans 12:2) Contemplating how quickly our years are passing and facing up to our mortality can create an urgency to address what has so far been left unaddressed. For a Christian it should not be a depressing thought, but a liberating one. Alan Jones writes, “Is it only in the presence of death that we can see so clearly what love ought to be like? The answer of the believer is ‘Yes.’ It is for the sake of learning how to love and for no other reason that the believer is committed to looking death straight in the eye. Facing death gives our loving force, clarity, and focus. But how awful to discover what love ought to be like only at the end of one’s life, when it is too late. … The contemplation of our death helps us to discover what true love is.” (Soul Making)
The spiritual power of momento mori can also be inferred from looking at those who have had near-death experiences. This is an area of interest to researchers such as Dr. Bruce Greyson, a specialist in psychiatry and neurobehavioral sciences at the University of Virginia, and a leading expert. He has documented profound changes that often transform the attitudes, values, beliefs, and behavior of people who have had such encounters. He has found that near-death experiences, “typically make people more … compassionate, more caring, more altruistic, and they become much less interested in physical things – in material goods, in power, prestige, fame, competition.” More compassionate and caring? Less consumed by stuff and self? Sounds like the path of love.
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1 A name that’s good is better than,
the finest perfume worn;
The day of death is better than,
the day that one is born.
2 Far better in a house that mourns,
than one where there’s a feast;
So everyone should take to heart,
that all end up deceased.
3 Far better than a laughing mouth,
is grieving in the soul;
For sadness showing in a face,
will make the heart feel whole.
4 The heart of one who’s wise is in,
the house of misery;
But not a fool, who’s heart is in,
the house of gaiety.
5 Far better to be scolded by,
a person who is wise;
Than listen to the song of fools,
and what their words advise.
6 Like crackling thorns beneath a pot,
that set it simmering;
So is the laughter of a fool,
which doesn’t mean a thing.
7 Oppression and extorsion drives,
the wisest person mad;
While bribery corrupts the heart,
and makes one’s thinking bad.
8 Far better is a matter’s end,
than when it has its start;
And better patient empathy,
than pride within the heart.
9 Don’t let your spirit be provoked,
or let your temper rule;
For anger lodges deep within,
the spirit of a fool.
10 Don’t ask, “Why were the olden times,
so better than these days?”
For there’s no wisdom to be found,
contained in such a phrase.
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11 Now wisdom is as good as wealth,
from any legacy;
It is a benefit to have,
for those with eyes to see.
12 For wisdom is, as money is –
a shelter and defense;
But knowledge can preserve the life,
of those with commonsense.
13 Consider all that God has done:
O who can circumvent,
Or find a way to straighten out,
the things that he has bent?
14 When times are good, be filled with joy,
but when they’re bad, recall –
While God makes both, which one will come,
can’t be foreknown at all.
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15 In my short life I’ve seen a lot,
that seemingly is wrong:
Of righteous people dying young,
while wicked men live long.
16 So don’t be over righteous and,
do not be overwise;
For discontent and misery,
from either can arise.
17 And don’t be overwicked and,
don’t be a simpleton;
For otherwise you might just die,
before your time is done.
18 Hold tightly to such warnings and,
obey them carefully;
Those honoring and fearing God,
from all extremes will flee.
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19 Now wisdom makes a person strong,
and far more powerful;
Than any ten officials who,
within a city rule.
20 There’s no one righteous here on earth –
not one who’s always good;
There’s no one who has never sinned,
or does the things they should.
21 Don’t pay attention to the words,
that people sometimes spew;
For if you do, then you may hear,
your servant cursing you.
22 For somewhere buried in your heart,
you know one thing is true;
That you yourself have many times,
cursed other people too.
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23 I tested everything I could,
and said, “I will be wise;”
But yet, all things were far beyond,
what I could analyze.
24 Whatever is or may have been,
is far too deep to glean –
Can anyone discover it,
or grasp what it may mean?
25 I turned my mind to understand,
the role that wisdom plays;
To know the wickedness of fools,
and madness of their ways.
26 I found a woman worse than death,
whose heart is like a lair;
Those pleasing God will get away,
but sinners she’ll ensnare.
27 The Teacher says, “Behold, and look,
this is what I have found;
While adding one thing to the next,
to learn what is profound.”
28 I’ve looked upon a thousand men,
and women just the same;
But only found a single man,
with virtue I could name.
29 I’ve found that God made people good –
to walk an upright way;
But they’ve instead made evil plans,
and badly gone astray.









